Spend time with someone who believes in YOU.  Someone who builds you up!  That person will act as a mentor to you. Someone you admire. Someone who inspires you. He or she can make you feel really good about yourself.  It could be a relative or a friend or someone you work with.

All successful people have good mentors:

Ask any successful person and they will tell you that they have been inspired by one person in particular. That kind of inspiration can encourage you to be all that you can be. 

Have you ever been in the presence of someone who really believes in you?

You feel ten feet tall. It’s a great feeling. They see the potential in you. The uniqueness of who you really are. They like to spend time in your company. What you say is important to them. They always seem to have sound advice. It’s not done in a sergeant-major way. It’s done in a wise and meaningful way. 

Try to see YOU the way this person sees you:

How would you view yourself? Imagine feeling that way about YOU.  Believing in yourself. Believing in options.  Believing in possibilities.  Believing in life!

Who we spend time with can have a dramatic affect on us:

Surrounding yourself with positive people will make you feel better.  They just seem to have an energy all of their own and they are a lot of fun to be with.

Have you ever noticed that some people just drain you of energy?

Be mindful of who you spend a lot of your time with. Be selective with your time and energy. Make it work for YOU!

Spend time with someone who believes in you:

You will know who your mentor is. You will feel it in your heart. It’s that person who encourages you,  believes in you, cares for you, and who is there for you through thick and thin. It’s the one who builds you up and sees the true potential in you.  And when the moment presents itself, be there when someone, just like you, needs the same kind of mentoring.

It’s all about life!

What do you think?

I went to a talk recently.  The speaker brought to light the fact we do not acknowledge small acts of kindness that happen to us on a daily basis.  It got me thinking! We tend to focus on what’s wrong all the time. Gratitude is something that we need to cultivate. It’s like planting a seed and watching it blossom!

Train Your Brain

The idea is that you are training your brain to acknowledge the good things that happen to you on a daily basis.  Your brain takes in billions and billions of bits and pieces of information each day. Naturally, it filters some things.  Otherwise you would not be able to cope with all that information. Sometimes, we filter out the nice things that happen too. Has anyone ever said to you “oh you look great today”. Our natural reaction is “oh this old thing”.  We filter out the compliment.  At the end of the day, we forget someone said something really nice and it felt good.

List five things that happened to-day that you are grateful for

It is really important to practice being grateful. For example when I am bleary eyed, and ready to turn off the light, I take a pen and paper and list five things that happened during the day that I am grateful for.  If I am really stuck I might start with things like “the car started”.  This is just to get the natural flow going.  Perhaps it might be that the “dog wagged his tail when he saw me”. Obviously it’s far better if you have a dog when writing this one!  But you get where I am coming from.

Sleep well

Before you go to sleep tonight, take a piece of paper and a pen and jot down five things that happened to you today that made you feel good, made you feel happy. Maybe your son said to you “good night Dad, I love you”.  It doesn’t mean you have had to have won an Oscar.  Being grateful each evening will end the day on a good note and surely that is a good thing. By training your brain to recognise the good things that happen each day, you begin to wake up from the nightmare of finding fault.
So how grateful are you to-day?

Margaret

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A lot of people are asking themselves this question.  They are wondering what it is all about?  It’s important to know that what you do counts. You don’t have to be a billionaire to make an impact in people’s lives. Sometimes the greatest gift is to listen to someone else.  It gets us out of our own head. The greatest motivators are those who listen and listen well.

Knowing that what you do counts:

Knowing that what you do counts is really important.  We can sometimes get a little lost and beat ourselves up wondering why we aren’t doing more.  You are constantly influencing people whether you realize it or not.  Sometimes mothers who stay at home wonder if they will ever see beyond the nappies, and endless washing, and chores that must be done on a daily basis.  What you do does count!

Impact:

People tend to forget how important they are to others. Family members seek out advice on things that are a concern for them.  They believe in you.  They trust you. It may seem like it doesn’t matter to them what you say.  The reality is that it will have some impact on them.

Finding something meaningful and productive:

Some people are at home unemployed wondering what to do. All day long the thoughts run like a movie script over and over in their head “what will I do”?  You know the way sometimes looking at t.v. can be boring and you need to change the channel.  Well now you may need to change the script going on in your head!  You wrote the script.  Change the movie that is going on in your head! It’s your LIFE.

Planning a list of things to do each day will help you move towards purpose and meaning in your life. Imagine getting that shed sorted or getting into gardening. Or even growing you own vegetables. Sometimes working on a voluntary basis for a cause that is of great meaning to you will help you realise that what you do has a great purpose. Believe in what you do.

Believe in who you are, the essence of the real you. The uniqueness of you and the gift of a life that you have.  Start to believe that life has meaning and purpose. You are here for a reason.  And what you do, and who you are count!

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• Drugs
• Sex
• Porn
• Gangs
• Rows
• Stress

When asking about the effects of drugs they said that they felt paranoid after them.  They had nightmares.They felt lonely and miserable. Some of them said that it was difficult to even look at their families. They felt under real pressure from knife attacks, rows at football matches, pressure from friends and authority figures. When I asked them what were the positive things that influenced them they shared the following

• Hobbies
• Education
• Work
• Someone who believed in them

If we want our teenagers to change, we have to listen first.  Sometimes they are perceived as tough cookies who don’t care!  Beyond that exterior, is a human being with a heart and soul. Trying to survive in a jungle can be difficult. Listening to them whether they think you are over the hill or “not really with it” is the greatest gift you can give them.

Some teenagers want change, some don’t. We live in the same world but sometimes our worlds appear miles apart. When we come into this world as babies we are perfect in every way.  What shapes us is the influences in our lives! We learn quickly to respond to those influences. They can either empower you or destroy you. It’s hard to accept bad behaviour. If we can learn to disassociate the behaviour from the person, it makes it more tolerable.  Think about how many mistakes we have made ourselves.  Be role models for young people. Curb your anger and show them appreciation and encouragement.  Admire their natural talents and skills often.  Chances are, you can change a life.

She plays bingo.  She help run a club for the elderly where she is club secretary. She regularly fund raises from local politicians who are only too keen to support the group.  She lobbies for change in her area.  She goes on trips to the country with her pals.  They have dinner and dance the night away at club nights.    She has done yoga, flowering arranging, attends cake sales, and anything else she can find her way into.  There seems to be endless parties.  Christmas lasts the whole of December and into most of January.

She tells me often about her friends who are on “zimmer frames” or “walking sticks”. Does this stop them from going on trips?  Absolutely NOT!  In fact I am told that when a bus arrives to take them to a trip it can be difficult to help some friends onto the bus because of their various conditions. However, on a good night out and when the music starts, they all seem to forget their worries and dance the night away.  It is often the case that some of the people with zimmer frames and walking sticks forget these when leaving.  A lot of the time their grandchildren have to collect these the following day!

To me this is real Attitude.  These elderly people are the wisdom upon which our State was founded.  They are a light shining in the dark.  They are unafraid.  They live life to the full.  They stick together.  They stand up for their rights and believe in who they are.  They laugh in the face of recession because they know how difficult things were before we were born.

We have so much to learn.  Attitude is everything!

A positive attitude will change your life, you will feel better, laugh more, and people will want to be around you more.  Go on, give it a try!

What do you think?